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Hate the Player, Not the Game

“Dr. Lori Beth, how do I know if I’m being used?” Inevitably, this question comes up in a relationship where one partner is feeling that they are putting in more than they are receiving. In all ‘ships from grown folkin’ to a long-term partnership, there are ebbs and flows. However,

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BDSM

Create Your Ideal Relationship(s)

I was talking with my sister, Mrs. Blue Frost, about how important it is to know what you bring to the table in a relationship, whether it’s monogamous, you’re part of a triad, you’re in a poly dynamic, or you’re grown folkin’. Frost shared that she is continually examining and

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polyamorous relationships
Authority Based Relationships

Structuring Polyamorous Relationships: Can We Really Remove Hierarchy?

In the 21stcentury, all varieties of consensual nonmonogamy have become trendy.  From Cosmopolitan to The New York Times to The Guardian articles and exposés about polyamory abound. Over and over, I read about the best ways and even the right way to do nonmonogamy and polyamorous relationships. As a sex & intimacy coach and

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owner loaner
Authority Based Relationships

Non-Monogamy and Hierarchical Relationships: From Polyamory to Owner Loaner Model

Polyamorous relationships come in an infinite number of configurations. For more about how different open relationships might look including an owner loaner relationship, you can find one of my articles hereand a seriesof podcastshere. D/s relationships are ones in which dominance and submission are the primary feature.  D/s relationships are authority transfer based relationships because

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