I was talking with my sister, Mrs. Blue Frost, about how important it is to know what you bring to the table in a relationship, whether it’s monogamous, you’re part […]

Turning Pain Into Pleasure
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Turning Pain Into Pleasure: From OUCH To Oooooo…

For most kinky sex and BDSM beginning bottoms, pain is not an instant turn on.  You may have read plenty of articles waxing lyrical about how hot pain is and how many stratospheric orgasms you can have if the beating is just right... but the…
When Pain Turns You On
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When Pain Turns You On…

Miranda was experimenting with her first girlfriend when she realized that pain turned her on. Her girlfriend bit her in the heat of passion and it was an instant orgasm.  At first she felt confused by this and then she felt ashamed.    Wasn’t…

What Turns You On?

I ask this question of clients a lot and surprisingly, people often cannot answer it.   Many people look to others to turn them on.  Their expectations are that partners will somehow know what to do.    Many people are still brought up…
Polyamorous D/s
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Tell Me About Polyamorous Dominant/submissive (D/s) Relationships

Are there polyamorous D/s (dominant submissive) relationships? Yes there are. Polyamorous D/s relationships come in an infinite number of configurations.  For more about how different open relationships might look, you can find one of my articles…
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LGBTQQIAA+ Where do I fit in?

When I was first coming out, the acronym was LGB and even then, B was not much talked about.  In graduate school there was the Lesbian and Gay student organisation and I remember being invited to a party early on but not feeling comfortable…
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When Does Female Sexuality Peak?

I remember clearly being told that I wouldn’t come into my fully bloomed sexuality until I hit the age of 35 as women didn’t peak sexually until they were older.  As I was enjoying myself then, I didn’t really think about when I might…
Brothels
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Here’s Why It Makes Sense For Sex Workers To Run (And Manage) Their OWN Brothels

The theory was when prostitution (and brothels) were legalized, the criminals (especially organized crime – responsible for most trafficking) would find some other easier more lucrative way to earn money. In turn, sex workers, on the street…
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Pop-up Brothels? Whys an wherefores of buying sex

Not too long ago there was a huge outcry when it was discovered that some sex workers were hiring places using Airbnb and setting up short term brothels.  People were upset about the sex work in general and also about the thought of people…
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‘But His Penis Doesn’t Vibrate!’ An Introduction to Sex Toys

20 years ago, Sandra came to see me because she had never had an orgasm and she was sure that she was going to lose her marriage as a result.    She was 35 years old and had been married for 10 years.  She described her marriage as happy…