Q&A podcasts – often by request

Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.

Today I finish my series about the care and feeding of the penis.  Joining me today is Dr Pat Williams. Dr. Pat has been a psychologist and Life coach for over three decades and focuses on people living on purpose, mentally, emotionally, and physically and spiritually.

Patrick Williams, Ed.D., MCC, is founder of The Institute for Life Coach Training, the first-of-its-kind training institute that specializes in training psychotherapists, psychologists, counsellors and helping professionals in building a successful coaching practice.

He was licensed as a psychologist in 1980 and began executive coaching in 1990 with Hewlett Packard, IBM and Kodak. He was an International Coach Federation founding member and one of the first Master Certified Coaches.

Dr Pat is a past ICF board member and past president of ACTO, (Association of Coach Training Organizations) and honorary VP of the International Society for Coaching Psychology Pat’s graduate education is in Humanistic and Transpersonal Psychology.

He co-authored Therapist as Life Coach: Transforming Your Practice and Total Life Coaching: 50+ Life Lessons, Skills, and Techniques to Enhance your Practice and Your life.

His best-selling book (with Diane Menendez), is Becoming a Professional Life Coach: Lessons from the Institute for Life Coach Training.    Pat also co-edited Law and Ethics of Coaching used at many academic institutions and training schools.

His newest book,
Getting Naked: On Emotional Transparency at the Right Time, the Right Place and with the Right Person is available on Amazon and audiobooks.

We spent most of our time talking about how important it is to be authentic with a partner and to show up authentically.  Dr Pat spoke about the importance of being able to be naked emotionally with a partner before, during and after sex and we talked about how hard it is for men to be emotionally naked.

Dr Pat suggested that the millennials find sharing emotions easier and I agreed but said that we have not yet made as much progress as I had hoped.  Dr Pat suggested that there should be a broadway show ‘The Penis Monologues’ to compliment the Vagina Monologues and I agreed that this would be a brilliant idea.    We both agreed that men and women still find it hard to create that safe space where they can explore their emotions, work through difficult issues and bring their full selves – warts and all.

Dr Pat spoke about how many couples would have longer lasting relationships if they learned to express their full selves and how to work with the ups and downs in relationships.  We spoke about how men are not often taught how to deal with the different issues that arise at different stages of life.  I briefly mentioned the changes men go through physically and emotionally as they get older.  We then talked about how important touch is for all human beings.  Dr Pat highlighted that people are meant to be in relationship to each other.  I agreed and pointed out that people need to learn themselves first and he highlighted that people also learn themselves in relationships.

You can find Dr Pat at:

Website:

http://drpatwilliams.com

Free gift for listeners: http://www.drpatwilliams.com/winner

Facebook: http://facebook.com/doccoach

Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drpatwilliams/

Twitter: @drpatcoach

He is also an expert on Yourtango.com and has a channel on the BonBonNetwork.Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.

Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@drloribethbisbey.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook..  Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  Why not join me for my upcoming free webinar 4 Secrets for Arousing and Igniting Your Authentic Sexual Self.  Click the link in the podcast notes to sign up or head to https://drloribethbisbey.com/4-secrets/ For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://drloribethbisbey.com and click the button that says Schedule Now!  Join me next week when we will start talking about sexless relationships.

 

 

Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.

Today I start my series about the care and feeding of the penis.

Joining me today is GP Walsh. Son of a schizophrenic mother and an absent father, GP’s earliest memory is being tied to his bed, to keep him from wandering. The years of abuse and emotional deprivation were offset by a natural gift for and love of truth as we’ll as an unquenchable curiosity about how people really heal and awaken.

GP has spent a lifetime mastering those techniques and processes that liberate the mind and heart and bring healing to individuals, families and organizations.

GP is the author of “The Tao of Allowing”, “Angels in the Basement”, “The Harmonious Human”, “Tapping on the Buddha”, “Just Allow It”, and numerous other ebooks, meditations and audio/video programs.

He is the Founder of The MasterHEART Institute, an Ordained Minister in the Universal Brotherhood Movement, a Member of the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology, the Evolutionary Business Council and was personally invited to be a member of the prestigious Transformational Leadership C ouncil by Jack Canfield, the organization’s founder.

We started by talking about The Ball Project and GP told me about how he started it and how important having a place for men to talk about feelings and worries is especially in the current cultural climate.

We spoke about how men find it difficult to feel their feelings and express them and how often they feel emasculated.  GP spoke about the anger and rage men carry – some righteous and some not and that they do not learn to express this in productive ways and this makes them ill.

We spoke about how all of this can cause impotency.  We went on to talk about retirement and the loss of relevance that men experience when they retire and how this can impact sexual functioning.  GP talked about how important it is for men to be doing something that matters and that men still identify themselves by the job they do.  We spoke about the fact that because there is a medication for impotence, men are not encouraged to look at their feelings and make the connection between mind, feelings and body that may resolve the problem without medication.

We spoke about men using pornography as avoidance from fear of women, lack of understanding as to how to approach women and fear of the tough emotions like rejection.  We both agreed that looking at overuse of pornography as an addiction does nothing to help them men who are experiencing this problem.  We spoke about how difficult it is for men to be centred in now

You can find GP Walsh at:

Website:

http://gpwalsh.com

Facebook: http://facebook.com/GPWalshFB

Twitter: http://twitter.com/gpwalsh.com

Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.

Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@drloribethbisbey.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook..  Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://drloribethbisbey.com and click the button that says Schedule Now!  Join me next for part 2 of the care and feeding of the penis.

Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.

Today I am continuing my series about the care and feeding of the vagina.

Joining me today to continue the discussion is Michele Brookhaus RSHom(NA), CCH, passionately embraces her mission as Yoni whisperer and soother of all things feminine. As Creator of Yoni Bliss, a homeopathic medicinal as well as a personal exploration and healing of both the physical and metaphysical vulva/womb, she fiercely acknowledges the power of the Yoni (vagina) to direct and defend woman’s innate creativity and capacity for unbounded pleasure, wisdom and satisfaction.

20 years a homeopath and healer she studies with world renowned teachers in the fields of homeopathy, energy healing, neurolinguistic programming and other modalities. She loves honing her skills and is a healer of healers and mentor of mentors.

As a thought leader picked up by Huffington Post, Prevention, the Good Men Project, as well as Thought Catalogue, The Vaccine Reaction and Yahoo Parenting, she is tickled to find herself on the forefront of women’s empowerment, helping women remember and find the truth in, and the possibility of pleasure, fun and satisfaction.

Yoni Bliss chose her as CEO (chief exhilaration officer),  because she has come to KNOW that enough is enough. Her own Yoni has rooted her in this knowing. And so she offers not just a product, but classes, retreats, individual sessions both virtually and in person for women wishing to know this for themselves. Sensual, Wise, Satisfied, that’s her call to you.

Michele lives in the Pacific Northwest, and her 23 year old inspirational son does too (though far enough away so she doesn’t bug him too much0  She loves Bikram yoga, Salsa dancing, and listening to her Yoni.

We started talking about the vagina, sex and lubrication and all the things that can impact upon lubrication at different parts of our lives.

We moved on to talking about the differences between women’s vaginas, clitorises and the fact that so many women have no idea that each woman is different.  Michele spoke about the homeopathic remedies in Yonis Bliss – Chamomile that helps calm the nervous system and promote relaxation in particular.

We spoke about the use of arnica (though it is not in this product) to tame pain and bruises and reduce swelling and Michele said she thought it would be interesting to put this remedy in a lube. I said it would be excellent for rough sex, anal sex and BDSM.

We spoke about the days when women’s encounter groups were common and that more intimacy was encouraged and Michele talked about noticing more retreats now that focus on women learning about their bodies, vagina, and their own desire.    We spoke about teaching women in a different way with an emphasis on the sacred feminine, starting from a place of learning their bodies, learning desire, banishing shame and looking at inviting others into their garden, their intimate places.  We highlighted the fact that this didn’t necessarily mean passivity.  Michele spoke of the strong boundaries that Yoni can set and that women have strength that feels different from the strength of men.  I mentioned that inviting someone in does not preclude power exchange, BDSM or rough sex.  Inviting someone in is the place where consent is discussed and given.

We spoke about healing from sexual trauma and creating a healthy sex life and how coaching and body working and energy work methods can take someone beyond the place straight forward talk therapy can take them.

Michele can be found at http://www.yonisbliss.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YonisBliss/?ref=bookmarks

Twitter: @yonisbliss

Michele offers a free 20 minute consultation to see if a VIP (very important pussy) day is in order.

Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.

Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@drloribethbisbey.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook..  Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://drloribethbisbey.com and click the button that says Schedule Now!  Why not join me for my upcoming free webinar 4 Secrets for Arousing and Igniting Your Authentic Sexual Self.  Click the link in the podcast notes to sign up or head to https://drloribethbisbey.com/4-secrets/ I look forward to seeing you next week for part 3 of this series.

 

 

Sex Spoken Here: Care and Feeding of the Vagina 3

Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.

Today I am finishing my series about the care and feeding of the vagina.

Anna-Thea is an author, speaker and teacher. Her courses offer women life-changing tools in the area of emotional mastery and spiritual sexuality. She is dedicated to helping women live more sensually alive and speak confidently from their hearts. Anna-Thea offers practical solutions for women with body image, food and/or intimacy/relationship issues.

She has a bachelor’s degree in Nutrition and is a Level 2 certified Kundalini Yoga and Vinyasa Flow instructor. She is also certified from the Divine Feminine Institute as a Spiritual Sexual Educator. Using principles from her extensive studies in yoga, nutrition, psychology, astrology and the Divine Feminine Institute she educates women to be leaders of love. Her book “Empower Yourself by Loving Your Body” and her blog offer women insights to honor their bodies.

Her upcoming on-line course Mastering Your Emotions will show you how to face your emotions instead of fear them and let them be a source of empowerment instead of sabotage. Her educational classes in what she calls her Sacred Zoom Room are experientially transforming.

We started speaking about the brain body connection and Anna-Thea talked about Naomi Woolf’s book Vagina and the research on the neuroscience and connections between vagina and brain.

Anna-Thea spoke about the importance of listening to the vagina/yoni and the link between the body and the yoni.  She spoke about the vagina as the creative centre and the location of a woman’s power.

We spoke about how westerners are often disconnected from their bodies and their feelings.  Anna-Thea spoke about how hard it can be to get people connected to their bodies and especially women.  We spoke about shame and the way in which it impacts our sexual experience.

I spoke about how many people are in the future or in the past but have difficulty being in the present and how important it is to be in the now – which is in the body.   We spoke about expressing feelings and how important that is in order to have a healthy sex life.

I talked about how important it is to teach people how to see various shades of feelings, recognise where they are in the body, sit with the feelings and then release them.

Anna-Thea described her two upcoming courses.  The first focuses on the emotional aspects and teaching women how to feel their feelings and then how to express them.  The second is Sex Education Your Mother Never Taught You.

Mastering Your Emotions Course start August 23rd

http://www.annathea.org/emotions

Sex Ed You Didn’t Learn From Your Mother starts Nov 1st

http://www.annathea.org/sexed

For more information visit http://www.Anna-Thea.com and http://www.LeaderofLove.com

http://www.annathea.org

https://www.facebook.com/annatheafab

Twitter: @theannathea

Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.

Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@drloribethbisbey.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook..  Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://drloribethbisbey.com and click the button that says Schedule Now!  Why not join me for my upcoming free webinar 4 Secrets for Arousing and Igniting Your Authentic Sexual Self.  Click the link in the podcast notes to sign up or head to https://drloribethbisbey.com/4-secrets/ I look forward to seeing you next week for part one the care and feeding of the penis.

 

Care and Feeding of the Vagina

Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here.  As this podcast contains adult material, if you don’t have total privacy you might want to wear headphones.

Today I am starting a series on the care and feeding of your vagina.

The vagina is a wonderfully complex organ that can provide us with great pleasure.  It experiences many changes through the lifespan and surprisingly many women (and men) know little about what to expect.  In this series, I will be looking at issues from cleanliness to periods to childbirth to menopause and beyond.

Joining me today is Bonnie Gayle, body image expert and the founder of Sex Butter.   She educates on feeling comfortable and confident in and with your body as well as vaginal and sexual health.  It’s all an inside job.  Her product, sex butter, is a sexually empowering pleasure enhancement and personal lubricant made with organic plant-based oils infused with messages of love and healing.  Bonnie’s experience being thrown into a traumatic menopause overnight caused many challenges with her sex life when walking around became dry and painful.  At the age of 41, Bonnie was diagnosed with vaginal atrophy which she healed holistically with her product Sex Butter and a jade egg.  Now Bonnie teaches vaginal and sexual health to women worldwide.

 Let’s start with a definition of vaginal atrophy.

Bonnie explained that all muscles atrophy or shrink when not used and the vagina is no different.  We talked about the fact that even if you are doing Kegel exercises (which we explained), this may not be enough.  We talked about stress incontinence and the fact that that whole band of muscles and ligaments supports not only the vagina but also the bladder.

Bonnie talked about her experience with traumatic menopause and how much atrophy hurt.  She spoke of healing by using a jade egg which she slept with every night and sex butter.  She described it taking about three months for her to be comfortable again and said that now she uses the jade egg about once per week and still uses the sex butter.

We spoke about the antibacterial and antifungal properties of the formulation.  All the ingredients are organic.  We talked about the soothing properties of peppermint as well as the ability peppermint must jump start libido.

We talked about the problems women experience with their vaginas across the lifespan and highlighted the myth that problems happen primarily from menopause and beyond.

Bonnie talked about how many women have never looked at their own vaginas and have no idea what a normal vagina looks like.  I highlighted the fact that if you don’t know what is normal for you, you won’t be able to recognise when changes occur that might signal illness or injury.  Bonnie spoke about the need for self-love and self-acceptance and how many women are disconnected from their vaginas.  We spoke about the increase in labiaplasty and our concerns that women aren’t learning about pleasure and are still learning to value their looks and presentation above their own pleasure.

Bonnie can be found:

http://sexbutter.net

http://openingpandorasbox.com

https://www.facebook.com/sexbutter/

https://twitter.com/theBonnieGayle

Bonnie is offering listeners 10% off your first order with the coupon SB10.  She invites women who have questions or are using her products to contact her at sexbutter@gmail.com.

Thanks for joining me this week for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@drloribethbisbey.com, follow me on twitter @drbisbey and check out my YouTube channel.  For a free 30 minute strategy session with me, go to https://drloribethbisbey.com and click the button that says Schedule Now!  If you are curious and ready to explore more, enjoy me for my webinar/telecall 4 Secrets for Arousing and Igniting Your Authentic Sexual Self .  Click the link to register.  I look forward to seeing you there and next week for part 2 of this series.  Please leave a review if you have enjoyed this podcast on either iTunes or Stitcher

Sex Spoken Here: Let’s Talk about Gender

Welcome to my virtual therapy room!  I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.

Today I am continuing my series about gender.  Last week I started my discussion with Melvin Marsh.  Today we are continuing that discussion.  If you haven’t heard part 1, go on and download it and have a listen.

Melvin Marsh is a practicing medical hypnotherapist in with particular interests in medical hypnosis, phobias, and anxiety. While attending medical school, hypnotherapy was suggested to him to deal with his own anxiety problem caused by a residual medical phobia. As hypnotherapy started to relieve the symptoms, he realized he could use hypnosis to help his future patients. Eventually, he left medical school to pursue studies at HMI College of Hypnotherapy where he graduated with honors. He became a certified hypnotherapist under the strict guidelines of the Hypnotherapist’s Union Local 472 AFL-CIO, the strictest certifying agency in the United States requiring an additional 80 clinical hours over that of the National Guild.

Melvin has been interviewed by top podcasts, including being interviewed by the famous Adam Eason of Hypnosis Weekly and is much in demand as a speaker and teacher.

We started by finishing our talk about screening and therapy prior to transitioning and the number of people who have second thoughts and return to their original gender.

We moved on to the difficulties involved in dating and talked about when it is appropriate to tell someone that you are trans (as soon as possible says Melvin).  We spoke about the effects of transition on sexuality and the fact that sometimes sexual orientation changes and other times it does not so nothing can be assumed.  We talked anatomy and the changes that happy for FTM transsexuals.

We spoke about the different ways people like to have sex, the importance of getting pronouns correct but the recognition that honest mistakes are usually quickly forgiven.

We spoke about how awful it is when someone repeatedly chooses to address a person incorrectly and how invalidating that is.

If you want to find Melvin:

Website Link

http://www.afterhourshypnotherapy.com

Facebook link

https://www.facebook.com/afterhourshypnotherapy/

twitter link

https://twitter.com/melsmarsh/

Other social media link

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJhbqVCZtqEuwVx-azZJoA/

If you wish to book LGBT culturally competent hypnosis, or anything like that in general, $50 (USD) off any service but you have to use the contact us form on the website so it goes directly to me and just mention Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. Write to me with suggestions for the show, questions you want answered at drbisbey@drloribethbisbey.com, follow me on twitter, Instagram and Facebook..  Check out my YouTube channel: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.  For a free 30-minute strategy session with me, go to https://drloribethbisbey.com and click the button that says Schedule Now!  I look forward to seeing you next week for part three of this series on gender where I will be interviewing Dr Meg-John Barker.