Private Coaching & Therapy

As a registered psychologist, accredited GSRD therapist and certified coach, I work with people locally in both the UK and the US (depending on my travel schedule), and around the world via Zoom™.

Below you’ll find a selection of my most sought-after services.  Please note that all of my services are bespoke. There is a detailed intake form to fill out before you can access any session.

Anita Cassidy

Private Coaching and Therapy

This is a great option for you if:

  • You want to explore your sexuality and/or desires and/or you want to learn how to choose the best partner(s) for you.
  • You want to work on issues relating to gender, sexual orientation, issues relating to coming out and/or transition.
  • You want to create a more exciting sex life – as a single person, a couple, or a non-monogamous group.
  • You want to explore nonmonogamy, open up your existing relationship, manage a mono/poly relationship.
  • You want to improve your relationship and emotional skills, communication, and negotiation skills.
  • You want to explore kink, BDSM, authority transfer-based relationships with someone who is knowledgeable.
  • You want to work on your kink, BDSM, authority transfer-based relationship as a single or with a partner (s).
  • You want to improve your consensually non-monogamous relationships.
  • You want to heal from sexual or relationship trauma and create a new authentic congruent sexual life.

I Work With People in a Variety of Ways

Laser Coaching

This is a two hour session designed to focus in on one current issue.The goal is to move someone from stuck to unstuck.Your investment is £597.

Weekly Sessions

These are purchased in blocks of 10, 20, 30 sessions.  Your investment starts at £2497 for 10 session hours.  Book a 30 min session to see how we can work together. The price will be refunded on the cost of any purchase.

Intensive Coaching for Sexual Challenges & Relationship Issues

Intensive coaching has the advantage of building momentum quickly, which can facilitate powerful breakthroughs and personal transformations. Intensive coaching by nature allows you to get into the heart of your challenges right away and do deep work with immediate results. Intensive coaching is especially valuable when working with issues around sexual trauma.
Sessions are not fixed in time and continue until a good ending point has been reached. Your investment starts at £2597 for the one-day intensive.

Group Coaching

See the page on Retreats and Groups

Retreats

See the page on Retreats and Groups

Online Courses

There are a number courses that you can do in your own time.These include courses on creating the relationship you desire, examining non-monogamy, and looking at the DS in BDSM (authority transfer based relationships). These are self-guided courses.

Anita CassidyAs a registered psychologist, accredited GSRD therapist and certified coach, I work with people locally in both the UK and the US (depending on my travel schedule), and around the world via Zoom™.


Below you’ll find a selection of my most sought-after services.  Please note that all of my services are bespoke. There is a detailed intake form to fill out before you can access any session.

Private Coaching and Therapy

This is a great option for you if:

  • You want to explore your sexuality and/or desires and/or you want to learn how to choose the best partner(s) for you.
  • You want to work on issues relating to gender, sexual orientation, issues relating to coming out and/or transition.
  • You want to create a more exciting sex life – as a single person, a couple, or a non-monogamous group.
  • You want to explore nonmonogamy, open up your existing relationship, manage a mono/poly relationship.
  • You want to improve your relationship and emotional skills, communication, and negotiation skills.
  • You want to explore kink, BDSM, authority transfer-based relationships with someone who is knowledgeable.
  • You want to work on your kink, BDSM, authority transfer-based relationship as a single or with a partner (s).
  • You want to improve your consensually non-monogamous relationships.
  • You want to heal from sexual or relationship trauma and create a new authentic congruent sexual life.

I Work With People in a Variety of Ways

Laser Coaching

This is a two hour session designed to focus in on one current issue.The goal is to move someone from stuck to unstuck.Your investment is £697.

Weekly Sessions

These are purchased in blocks of 10, 20, 30 sessions.  Your investment starts at £2497 for 10 session hours.  Book a 20 min session to see how we can work together.

Intensive Coaching for Sexual Challenges & Relationship Issues

Intensive coaching has the advantage of building momentum quickly, which can facilitate powerful breakthroughs and personal transformations. Intensive coaching by nature allows you to get into the heart of your challenges right away and do deep work with immediate results. Intensive coaching is especially valuable when working with issues around sexual trauma.

Sessions are not fixed in time and continue until a good ending point has been reached.

Your investment starts at £2597 for the one-day intensive.

For Sexual Trauma Survivors:

 

Beyond survivor (for individuals): This program is for you if you’re ready to focus on rebuilding your passion map and combating sexual challenges following sexual trauma. It doesn’t have to be a recent sexual trauma, often traumas from the past can continue to haunt people until healing is achieved. If you feel like something from your past is holding you back or preventing you from flourishing sexually, I can help you.

In this program, we meet in person for 5 days (between 3 and 6 hours of coaching per day) and includes email support for 3 months following the program as well as 90 minutes of video calls in the three months following the intensive. You will have a choice of locations depending upon my schedule.   

Your investment is £12997 or 3 payments of £4497.

Intensive Package for Individuals: Creating a Bonfire

This one-day intensive (VIP day)  allows us to focus on one area – sexual exploration, communication around your desires, how to take your fantasies and turn them into reality, dealing with sexual challenges. You will leave the day with new or renewed skills in the area.

The package is in person for between 4 and 5 hours of coaching and includes email support for two months following the program and two 30 minute telephone or Zoom calls in the two months following the intensive. You will have a choice of locations depending upon my schedule.

Your investment is £2597 or two payments of £1397.

Relight Your Fire

 

Pick this package if you want to focus on rekindling your passion both outside a relationship and inside of it. By the time we are finished, you will have a creative passion map that helps you to research and explore your fantasies; renewed communication skills and the confidence to use them to bring your dreams to fruition and resolve sexual challenges. This package is in person for 3 days (between 4 and 5 hours coaching per day) and includes email support for 3 months following the intensive. You will have a choice of locations depending upon my schedule.  

 Your investment is £5997

Ignite Your Passion

 

Pick this package if you want to explore your sexuality, to discover your turn-ons and turn-offs. By the time we are finished, you will have a detailed Passion Map that traces from your past, through to the present and into the future. You will take away your own sexual navigation system to help you to continue your journey and conquer sexual challenges.

This package is in person for 5 days (between 4 and 5 hours coaching per day) and includes email support for 3 months following the program and three 30 minute telephone or Zoom calls in the three months following the intensive. You will have a choice of locations depending upon my schedule. In 2021, this will be virtual because of COVID.

Your investment is £14997

Exploring Polyamory & Non-Monogamy

Polyamory is a topic that many couples seek information on. Often it begins in their primary relationship with discussions around opening up the relationship.  Let’s clear a few things up before we go deeper.  First, non-monogamy is any relationship that involves more than two people.  Non-Monogamy can be with consent or without consent. Without consent, it is called an affair.  The most damaging thing about an affair is the deception involved and thankfully, there are options for couples that do not have to include the breaking of trust and vows, we call that non-monogamy WITH consent.  Non-monogamy with consent can take many different forms.  For some couples, it is a “don’t ask, don’t tell” arrangement that happens when one person is away a lot.  For others, it involves threesomes and swinging.  The couple invites other people into their relationship and they participate together.  Some explore polyamory which is when there are multiple relationships rather than just multiple sexual partners.  Again this can take many forms. Couples and individuals come in to explore non-monogamy, to work on issues that arise as a result of non-monogamy and polyamorous relationships.  Polyamorous relationship groups also come in for coaching to work on issues arising in the relationships or to set up a good structure to create relationships that are strong and healthy.

I am a good person to work with on exploring polyamory or non-monogamy if any of these fit your situation:

  • You want to explore the possibility of consensually non-monogamous relationships
  • You are in a monogamous relationship and would like to open it to being non-monogamous with consent.
  • You are in a polyamorous relationship and want to work through issues and problems that have arisen
  • You don’t want to have to explain polyamory to a therapist or coach
  • You want help creating a set of agreements and a structure that works for your relationship(s)
  • There has been an affair and you want to heal from it.
  • You are monogamous and your partner is polyamorous but you want to stay in a relationship.

Ways to work with me on consensual non-monogamy/poly

Group work:  I run groups just for people looking at non-monogamy or in non-monogamous relationships and I run mixed groups.  Group work has the advantage of input from others who have similar life experience and/or are working through the same stages of growth.  They are also less expensive than working with me as an individual or couple.  Groups require a minimum 6-month commitment.  (link to page with retreats and groups)

Individual work:  Individuals sessions take place via Zoom for the forseeable future because of COVID-19.     You can choose from: intensive work (0.5, 1, 3, 5 day packages.  Minimum investment £1997),  3 month, 6 month and annual packages (minimum investment £2497).

Couples sessions:  Couples sessions also take place via  Zoom.

I often see the individuals for at least one session for two reasons: The first is that initially people are often more comfortable talking freely on their own. The second is to see if the individuals have the same goals for the coaching. If you want to work more quickly, intensive work may be a better fit.

You can choose from: intensive work (0.5, 1, 3, 5 day packages.  Minimum investment £1997),  3 month, 6 month and annual packages (minimum investment £2997).

Exploring Kink, Authority Transfer Relationships (BDSM)

 

Kink refers to any sexual activity that is outside the norm.  Some people enjoy specific fetishes like a fetish for rubber or latex.  People who enjoy rubber might want a partner to dress in rubber, might want to dress in rubber themselves and might want to use toys made of rubber in sex such as anal toys or dildos. Other common fetishes include cross-dressing, water sports (sex involving urine), and feet.

Power exchange (authority transfer) relationships are ones in which one person is dominant and the other person is submissive. These relationships can be very complex.  There are power dynamics in all relationships.  In these relationships, the dynamic is exaggerated.  These are consensual relationships and usually involve significant negotiation to decide how much power each person will have.

For example, in some Master/slave relationships, there is a total power exchange which means the Master has the option to control every aspect of the slave’s life.  In other power exchange relationships, the dynamic exists only in the bedroom.  Power exchange relationships usually involve various types of service.  These relationships can contain BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadomasochism) or not.

People who enjoy BDSM can enjoy bondage, rules and discipline and rituals, and sadomasochism.  Masochists gain pleasure from some painful activities like spanking, nipple clamps, flogging.  Some enjoy extreme play including needles, knives, play involving fire.  Sadists enjoy giving out the pain and enjoy that their partners will accept pain to please them.

I am a good person to explore polyamory, kink, power exchange (BDSM) if:

  • You are concerned about a fetish or kink you desire or have been practicing
  • You are interested in broadening your sexual menu to include kink, BDSM, power exchange, authority transfer
  • You want to find a way to tell your partner about kink, BDSM, or power exchange and have been worried about their reaction
  • You and your partner want to explore kink, BDSM, power exchange authority transfer in your relationship
  • You and your partner are wanting to learn to communicate and negotiate around kink, BDSM, power exchange, authority transfer
  • Your partner is kinky and you want to learn about this
  • Your partner is kinky and you are not and you still want to be in a relationship
  • You want to explore other issues with a coach and therapist who will not insist that kink, BDSM, or power exchange are the ‘real’ problem
  • You are non-monogamous but your partner is monogamous and you still want to have a relationship.
  • You want to explore non-monogamy as an individual or part of a couple.
  • You want help creating a non-monogamous relationship(s) that work

 

Individual work:  Individuals sessions take place via Zoom for the foreseeable future because of COVID-19.

Couples sessions:  Couples sessions also take place via  Zoom.

I often see the individuals for at least one session for two reasons: The first is that initially, people are often more comfortable talking freely on their own. The second is to see if the individuals have the same goals for the coaching. If you want to work more quickly, intensive work may be a better fit.

Couples Coaching

Couples coaching sessions are good when a couple (triad or relationship group) want to explore issues in the relationship either to solve sexual problems, look at opening up the relationship, to spice the relationship up sexually and generally examine any issues that arise and impact the relationship.

I often see the individuals for at least one session for the following reasons:

  1. Initially, people are often more comfortable talking freely on their own and couples coaching requires that both parties are fully heard. Sometimes, it’s easier to say in private your concerns or wishes and share those feelings with your partner in a joint session.
  2. To ensure that both people have the same goals for our coaching sessions.

If you want to work more quickly, intensive work may be a better fit and is always an option for either the couple or individuals.

These sessions can be via Zoom or in-person (in London or other locations depending upon distance and my travel schedule)  COVID-19: In 2021, sessions will be via Zoom or other video conference only until travel has returned to some semblance of normality.

I am a good person to do couples coaching work with if:

  • You and your partner want to explore your desires, increase your intimacy, and spice up your sex life.
  • You and your partner(s) want help resolving issues in your relationship, want to learn to manage differences between you productively.
  • You and your partner(s) want to explore issues relating to sexual orientation and gender including non-binary genders and orientations and transgender.
  • You and your partner(s) want to find creative ways to pursue sexual and intimate relationships and create the best relationships for you.
  • You and your partner(s) want to explore consensual non-monogamy, kink or power exchange and BDSM with someone who is knowledgeable and will not judge you or ascribe problems you are having to an alternative lifestyle choice.
  • You or your partner(s) have experienced sexual trauma and want to create an exciting healthy sex life, want help supporting each other
  • You and your partner(s) want to increase your sexual confidence, communication and negotiation expertise.
  • You and your partner want to figure out if your relationship is built to last and if you should decide to separate, you want to do so with dignity and as little animosity as possible.

 

Individual: Individuals sessions take place via Zoom for the forseeable future because of COVID-19.

12 month VIP package: Included in this package is 52 hours of individual coaching to spread over no more than 12 months, telephone calls for clarification, membership in private VIP group with exclusive content, monthly live Q&A and special guest seminars, free entry to all classes, two 2 day retreats (one every six months) & email support. (Email support covers responding briefly to email a couple of times per week, sometimes with worksheets,

Spaces available for an individual annual VIP package are extremely limited.  I devote these spaces to people who are ready for an intense programme to facilitate permanent change.  My VIPs are sexually self-assured, confident, expert communicators, clear about the types of relationships that feed them and pursuing these relationships.  They are commited to ongoing growth – willing to work to continue to improve their skills, challenge themselves to grow and open to new ideas, feedback and new experiences.  They live every day fully and authentically.  They are not perfect – they are active works in progress.

Book a free 20-minute session to enquire. Price upon application.