Speaking

“In our aim to normalise and destigmatise the conversation around female sexuality, we are hosting weekly events for women to talk freely about sex and hear from amazing speakers to facilitate the learning on their journey. Dr Lori Beth Bisbey came to speak about Boundaries at one of our events. While Lori is a knowledgeable and engaging speaker, this talk was so much more than just well delivered. Having been raped 4 years ago, Lori’s talk helped me make a fundamental shift in my thinking: Personally, I don’t believe in fate or that anything happens for a reason. I do, however, believe that our life is of our own making and that we are responsible for everything that happens. I believe that rather than things happening for or to us, we make them happen. That belief really had me struggling to make sense of what happened to me. Until her talk I was not able to separate responsibility from blame and so while on some level I knew I was not to blame, I could not shake the feeling of blame entirely because it was intrinsically linked to my sense of responsibility. Finally I was able to let go of my self blame and take a massive weight off my shoulders.”

~ Sarah Beilfuss, Co-Founder of and Chief Stigma Smasher at Scarlet Ladies