About Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is a Advanced GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity) therapist, sex & intimacy coach and psychologist whose expertise lies in working with individuals, couples, and groups to explore their sexuality, gender and relationship styles, discover a deeper level of sexual congruence, heal from past trauma, as well as create more meaningful, pleasurable, exciting, and authentic intimate relationships.

On a mission to create an open dialogue about sex, relationships, and self-expression, Dr Lori Beth is the specialist relationship therapist guiding couples on Open House: The Great Sex Experiment (Firecracker Films, Channel 4) and the host of the popular podcast The A To Z Of Sex®. She’s also a passionate speaker, dynamic workshop/retreat facilitator, and sought after expert in the media on the topics of sex, relationship style, intimacy, and trauma.

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey has been working with people since 1987 to help them resolve trauma and PTSD, and create and maintain superb relationships that contain sizzling sex and without the shame. She grew up in the US and did all over her work for her PhD except her dissertation research there. She emigrated to the United Kingdom in 1990 to marry her first husband, lived in the southeast for 32 years until moving to Scotland in November 2022.

Craving a more congruent existence?

Whether you are craving more congruence in your sexual or relationship presentation, curious about kink, non-monogamy, and/or recovering from sexual trauma, I want you to know YOU are enough.

I not only have a professional understanding of what you might be going through and/or wanting to explore. My personal history and past experiences help me more deeply understand and support my clients.

Growing up, I knew I was queer before I had the label to self-identify. At 19, I was held captive, beaten and repeatedly raped for 5 days by a man I knew. I didn’t fully recover from this trauma for over a decade. During that time, I suffered with PTSD, and made poor relationship choices. I only shared my suffering with my therapists, coaches, and a few close friends for much of that time.

I’ve been married 3 times. My first marriage was sexless. My second marriage gave me my son whom I adore (but was also pretty much sexless). My third husband and I allow each other to live as fully congruent and wholly satisfied consensually non-monogamous people. I identify as a queer polyamorous leatherwoman and I am married to a bisexual polyamorous leatherman.I am in two full time authority transfer based relationships (one with my husband since 2009, the other was on and off from 1984 – 2022 and has been consistent since the beginning of 2023) and another relationship with my bff and partner. All of the people in my polyamorous system are part of the leather community.

I know what it feels like not to fit in. I also know the pain of NOT living in the fullest expression of who I am sexually.

This journey is as unique as your fingerprint

It’s time to live as all of who you are.

I’m on a mission to change conversations about sex and sexuality while making it safe, comfortable, and acceptable to fully express yourself and your desires. I want people understand that there are choices and to learn to choose what resonates with them. Whether you resonate with an alternative lifestyle or a traditional one, you have every right to enjoy an authentic intimate life. I’m honoured to facilitate your exploration, expressing, and experiencing congruent sexuality and relationships.

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What my clients say

“I don’t think I’ve ever felt so free to be open and honest about myself as I am when I work with and talk to Lori! Our sessions have enabled me to transform my life and my relationships in a way that I did not think was possible. I gain much valuable insight and self- awareness through our sessions and would recommend her without hesitation to both couples and individuals who want to get more out of their lives and relationships!”

“I have been working with Lori Beth for about 8 months, both as part of a couple and on my own. Her warm, enthusiastic and open nature makes her very easy to talk to, and her intellectual rigour and heavyweight background means that I have absolute confidence in her ability to manage some of the more challenging emotional issues I have had to deal with. Lori provides insightful guidance as well as a truly non-judgmental and welcoming space to be heard in.”

“As a coach, Lori Beth is direct and makes it easy to talk about the hard bits. Thanks to our work with her, my partner and I have a sex life again – and it is hotter than it ever was before the baby! We have more fun together and feel closer than we ever have before. We can’t thank Lori Beth enough for helping us to re-light our fire!”

“I get a great deal out of my sessions with Lori in helping me with my relationships. She has helped me identify what is important to me and to have the courage to discuss this with any partner going forward.”

“My primary relationship recently went through a great deal of change. Dr Lori Beth helped me manage the change and look forward to the next stages in my life with my eyes fully open.”