Create Your Ideal Relationship(s)
I was talking with my sister, Mrs. Blue Frost, about how important it is to know what you bring to the table in a relationship, whether it’s monogamous, you’re part of a triad, you’re in a poly dynamic, or you’re grown folkin’. Frost shared that she is continually examining and refining her personal foundation, her […]
Structuring Polyamorous Relationships: Can We Really Remove Hierarchy?
In the 21stcentury, all varieties of consensual nonmonogamy have become trendy. From Cosmopolitan to The New York Times to The Guardian articles and exposés about polyamory abound. Over and over, I read about the best ways and even the right way to do nonmonogamy and polyamorous relationships. As a sex & intimacy coach and a psychologist therapist who works […]
Is Polyamory with a Monogamous Partner Possible? Poly/Mono Relationships 2.0
This is in update to my article done in January 2017. I have had more feedback on this blog post than on any other. Many people have written to get advice on their individual situations. This illustrates how complex it is to find an arrangement that works when dealing with a mixed poly/mono couple or […]
Non-Monogamy and Hierarchical Relationships: From Polyamory to Owner Loaner Model
Polyamorous relationships come in an infinite number of configurations. For more about how different open relationships might look including an owner loaner relationship, you can find one of my articles hereand a seriesof podcastshere. D/s relationships are ones in which dominance and submission are the primary feature. D/s relationships are authority transfer based relationships because the submissive gives authority over […]
The Monogamy Hangover®: The Result of Succumbing to Relationship Myths and Trends
Common Mistakes People in Non-Monogamous Relationships Make that Can Bring the Drama
One of the things I have noticed over the past number of years is how often a simple relationship mistake can bring drama with a capital D that lasts for ages. Often these mistakes fall into a few obvious categories. 1 It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to get permission. This quote […]
